…it’s always a bit awkward. I don’t try to hide my age. I am 31 and proud okay? But usually I don’t bring it up unless there some reason I should that’s related to something being discussed in class. I kind of like flying under the radar and fitting in at times, but I don’t go out of my way to hide it.
Last week in my Italian class we had an oral exam. Basically we had to stand in front of the class, tell everyone about our most and least favorite birthdays. This would have let the cat out of the bag for me since my favorite was my 28th. (Shoutout to my hubz and the England Fam Bam for the best surprise party EVAR) But before we started she asked what we did for spring break. Yes, the oral exam was on the first day back from spring break, sigh. So she asked around, most people had done something cool. I said I stayed around here, she asked what I did. Then I said I went to Laguna Beach to celebrate my anniversary.
First she was shocked that I was married. Then even more shocked when I said I wasn’t newly married, it had been 12 years, even more shocked when I said I was 31 and then even more shocked when she asked about kids and I said yes, I have a three year old. So. She would have found out anyway during my presentation so I guess it was better to get it out of the way so that it didn’t disrupt the exam but sheesh. This is a slightly more dramatic response,but I usually get this kind of response when I say I need to leave early to pick up my son or if I casually mention my husband in class. Of course I’m not complaining, it’s nice to not age like a banana.
But I don’t know how I should feel about this. Usually up to that point many professors can be a little patronizing with students and I can feel that probably more than they can because young people are used to being treated, well, like young people. But once the professors find out, I feel that there is a little bit more pressure on me to do well. I’m an adult and I should do well. It’s not as easy then to duck out of answering questions in class, and I find myself feeling responsible for raising my hand if no one else does, etc. At the same time, I get a little bit more respect I guess?
On the other hand, I don’t want to be the center of attention or stick out which is why I dress down for school. Plus, it’s really comfortable. Duh!